Not an answer to your question, but because else it’s as if I don’t want to tell people what the section is about (which isn’t the case): The misconceptions section is very interesting, I think. A lot of pseudo science is making these misconceptions, while more serious research by for example Daniel Goleman (and the guys at The Moral Brain too) clearly show that these misconceptions are just false and only add to misunderstanding human emotions. A misconception is for example that emotional intelligence means “just being nice”. Another misconception is that women are more emotionally intelligent than men. Research shows that men and women, when it comes to all of the important emotional intelligence components combined, aren’t much different in this regard. And research also shows that men and women vary a lot within their own sex: When selecting an individual men it might be that he excels in a certain emotional intellect where usually women excel, and vica versa. A lot of pseudo science also makes it all look simple while the domain is in fact incredibly complex. There are also no quickfixes like being more like women, which is what the worst pseudo science articles seem to suggest. Merely knowing about how we are emotionally wired also wont make you a sudden emotional genius. But the good news is that it’s something people of all ages can continue improving on.

I’m doing the book a disservice by trying to write it down in a blog comment here. Buy the book, read it, or listen to the audiobook. The videos that I refer to in the article don’t talk a lot about the misconceptions, but they do go to the point of what is important. Just watching those will enlighten most people too, I think.